Hey guys, haven't wrote an article in a while...So I feel like doing one now :)
This article is about the art of being confident! Being confident? Confident of? Well...Anything really.
I've noticed that alot of my peers has developed a lack of self-confidence and/or has a lack of thinking positively when the chips are down for them. So, this is how I go about these obstacles and creating confidence within yourself. Of course, I do credit certain people for giving me some of the ideas I'm about to reveal now...Who they are? I'll keep their annonymity.
Picture this situation: You had this close friendship with someone, or have had a relationship for a while, and then...One day, it all turns all pear-shaped and boom, that person doesn't want anything to do with you anymore, and also you start hearing false rumours about you in an attempt of bringing you down. Yeah, this thing happens alot, especially in the teenage/adolescent years...
One way around this obstacle is to realise that, instead of thinking to yourself, "Oh, everyone's against me...No one likes me"...Think, "Hold on...At the end of the day, only a small amount of people are just spreading this about me...Why should I let this get to me if I know it isn't true". Of course, tell the people that trusts you, or is more friends with you than the person you've fallen out with the truth. Of course, that person will believe you, but in all honesty, if the people are more in the side of the person you've fallen out with, then there's nothing you can do. In all honesty, you have a long life, rumours will eventually die down if there's no substance...So don't worry about it.
Realise, there's no point in worrying about it if 1% of everyone that knows you are bringing you down, if the rest of the 99% of the people are still happy with you...In life, you'll always have people that likes and not like you...Its unavoidable.
Another scenario is...
I haven't had anyone in a long while...That must mean im ugly. I got to take dieting pills, or...I gotta go to the gym loads and completely change my diet...
STOP !!
THERE!!
NOW!!!
First of all, if thats you, or you know someone that has that mindset about themselves, slap the senses out of them and realise...That to be honest, it is quite petty of them doing this. Because, first of all, it obviously shows there's a lack of confidence and self-esteem about themselves, resulting in them going through this spiral...And it really goes nowhere more often than not. Part of the problem is that no one wants to go out with someone with a lack of confidence, because well, you know, you need to show yourself up as someone worthwhile...And if you have a lack of confidence, then of course your not painting yourself in glory.
So, the solution? Well, to be honest, looks are important in someone going out with you...But presentation is more important. Presentation? Well, what I mean is that you have to dress appropriately...Something that suits you, and your persona...The right "image" for you. An extreme example...Someone would go out with someone that dresses himself and looks comfortable in it, rather than someone that dresses like a tramp. So you know, the phrase "Look good, feel good" is appropriate in this case. Of course, don't forget to show attention to detail in what the other person is talking about, because by doing so, it would engage in good conversation...And lets be honest...Good relationships are ones that isn't all about the "treats" in it...You know, companionship, chatting alot, socialising, all comes into play. In addition, if you act with a lack of self-confidence, then you can't conquer Everest, so to speak.
Generally, with all of this...Its all about...
Yup...A happy medium. Its all about finding the balance with everything. And that, my friend is the true test in your confidence. To be honest, I can't really teach you or tell you how you can gain this happy medium...Except, know what you want in life, and realise whats best for you in going about it...Thats probably the best advice I can give.
Thanks for reading people...Just my opinion by the way...And how I see things, thanks again for reading, and I'll be back soon with a new Pokemon Vid!
Ciao!
